Growing a relationship that works.
You’re trying. Talking more, talking less, giving space, pushing through. You keep landing in the same place.
You can feel the cycle. Same argument, different content. Neither of you knows how to slow down enough to pause.
To consider whether the words or actions rushing out will be helpful.
Or you can't bring yourself to the conversation you know is needed. Something has gone quiet and neither of you knows how to name it.
This work goes underneath what you argue about, or what you've stopped talking about, to what's driving it. No matter how stuck you feel.
Working together
In our work together, we go underneath what you argue about to what's driving the disconnection. We name the pattern, work with what each of you brings to it, and build skills for truth, repair, and closeness that honors each of you.
I draw on Relational Life Therapy (RLT), which is direct, structured, and works with both partners simultaneously.
We identify the relational stance each person takes under stress, trace where those stances were learned, and build new ways of being together that don't require either partner to shrink, perform, or manage the other's feelings.
Same argument, different day. One of you reaches while the other pulls away.
Same tightening in your body. Exhausted by the cycle.The relationship that used to feel easy now takes everything you've got.
You're working around each other instead of with each other.You're navigating a major transition together and the relationship is absorbing the strain.
You want to rebuild trust after a rupture, betrayal, or period of disconnection.