ADULT FAMILY WORK

The first relationship is still running.

Looking up at tall trees with green foliage from the forest floor.

The patterns between parent and child don't end when the child grows up.

They show up in every conversation that escalates too fast, every visit that feels like walking on eggshells, every phone call that ends with someone shutting down.

We work with the relational and family of origin patterns still running
between parent and adult child.

We identify the stance each person takes under stress. Connect those stances to how they were formed. Create a space where each person can be heard and known, and move towards growth.

YOU MIGHT FIND YOURSELF HERE IF…

  • Most attempts at real conversation with your parent or adult child escalates or goes silent.

  • Old family roles and family of origin patterns are still running: the fixer, the peacekeeper, the one who manages everyone's feelings.

  • A caregiving situation a living arrangement, or a family transition has surfaced patterns you can no longer ignore.

  • You've become estranged or distant from your parent or adult child and want to find a way back.

  • You've done your own individual work and want to bring what you've learned into the relationship with your parent or adult child, but don't know how.

I will hold what you bring.
However complex, however layered.
I will be honest about what I see. We'll move at your pace, towards growth.

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Free 30-minute consultation

WORKING TOGETHER

This work often involves navigating very different capacities.

One person may have done years of coaching or therapy. The other may be coming to this for the first time.

One may be eager to go deep. The other may need to control the pace of how much gets opened.

I will hold you and content you’re wanting to face. We move at the pace all of you can sustain.

I draw on Relational Life Therapy (RLT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), and somatic approaches.

We identify the stance each person takes in your relationship, connect those stances to how they were formed, and work to learn a different way forward.

Toward a version of the relationship where honesty and closeness can coexist.

We explore what's right for you in our first conversation.

Adult family sessions are 75 minutes. San Francisco Bay Area. Online through California.
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Currently accepting new clients
I also work with individuals and couples